Have you ever asked yourself why you are still single and lonely? Have you ever cried yourself to sleep at night, feeling like you’ll never find your ideal partner? It’s time to stop wondering and start taking action. Your perfect match is out there, but how can they possibly find you if you’re sitting at home, wondering why you’re alone? You need to get out there and attempt to date, rather than pondering life.

There are two common fears that hold people back from finding love: the fear of asking for a date and the fear of rejection. If you’re single and lonely, it’s time to overcome these fears and take control of your love life. Asking for a date is not a complex task, and you’ll get better at it with practice. Rejection is a natural part of dating, and it’s not the end of the world if someone declines your invitation for a date. In fact, it’s actually a good thing because it means that person isn’t your ideal partner.

If the thought of a face-to-face approach to meeting people and asking for dates causes you anxiety, there are other in-person options for you to explore that are a bit more gentle. For example, if you spot someone who you think could be your perfect match when you’re out and about, try showing them a warm smile. If they respond with a smile back, it’s a great start to catching their attention. You can also use eye contact and facial expressions to show your interest. However, be prepared for different reactions and practice your expression techniques in front of the mirror until you’re confident in what you see.

If the idea of a face-to-face approach still makes you nervous, try writing a handwritten message instead. The right choice of words can make a big difference and show your interest in a person. However, avoid being too soppy or saying “I love me, who do you love?” as this can kill any chance you may have had. If you express your interest in a person in the right way, you will get a reaction, even if it’s not the one you wanted. You can try these techniques in any venue: a library, a bar, a shop, a supermarket, or a church. Writing handwritten notes is a little old-fashioned and may remind some people of being at school when the other kid in the class fancied them – but it does work for some people. Note – some, not all.

If you’re tired of being single and lonely, it’s time to take action NOW. They say that if you want to go fishing, you can’t simply wait for fish to jump into your boat. You have to go out with your boat and fishing rod, even if the water seems choppy and the sky is overcast if you want to entice fish. Overcome your fears, try different approaches, and never give up on finding love. “If only the lonely would choose to mingle, then single they will not be”. Don’t wait for love to come to you, go out and find it.