A girl I know wanted to share her tips on how to talk dirty to guys with my blog readers. Well, I’m Dating Dave and I’m here to help – so why not? It’s not my own specialty area of course – but I don’t mind learning from the minds of others… so here are my friend’s top dirty talking tips!

“I’m not going to lie. If you’ve never talked dirty to guys, it can be uncomfortable. For an everyday person like me, finding the right words to say without feeling stupid can be difficult – and takes practice. I’m a normal working woman, and whilst I love sex I’m not a porn star. Whether you are 30 or 50, I think it’s best to start with the basics. Basically, that means vocalising what you’re actually thinking about while you’re having sex.”

“Ohhhh, you feel so good inside me!”, “Yeah baby, you know where my spot is…”, “You’re making me wet darling, push harder, faster!”. According to my friend, men are verbally aroused, and she says that men love hearing sexual noises and the things you like. “Don’t go overboard, you’ve got to sound natural. I like the way you make me feel when you’re inside me. Your ____ feels so big and warm. Baby, I love the way you kiss me. I love the way you touch me and make me feel safe and loved.”

Once you’ve practiced and done this enough times, it apparently becomes much more natural, and feels less rehearsed and clunky. I’m told that once this adjustment has occurred in your thinking and style, and you’re truly comfortable with your body and your ability to talk dirty, that you can really step things up with your guy and go from talking “dirty” to “filthy”. “Oh love, your big throbbing ____ feels so good inside of my deep dark wet hole. I’m gripping you so tight babe, go deeper!”

Talking dirty is clearly an important part of sex – certainly for some people if not for all. Keep it simple at first, and grow your vocabulary and repertoire over time. Keep your partner happy and keep the spark alive in your relationship – which hopefully will mean they avoid going anywhere else for this intimacy. Much love, Dating Dave! Buy my Thoughts on Love ebook on Amazon for more great relationship and love advice – based on real life!